Comments on: Mental barriers http://neekole.com/archives/2006/02/09/open-wounds/ Perpetually in beta Fri, 13 Nov 2009 16:37:49 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: suki http://neekole.com/archives/2006/02/09/open-wounds/comment-page-1/#comment-3347 suki Thu, 16 Feb 2006 02:04:56 +0000 http://neekole.com/archives/2006/02/09/open-wounds/#comment-3347 I can hardly speak/write/read Chinese, so I understand what you mean... Learning takes time. It IS on my list of todo items though. Fear of pain, rejection, and losing. Yup, those are all on my list too. I often write entries that I feel should be password protected, but in the end, I just leave it out there. The only way to face issues is to make oneself accountable for them... so they're out there in the open, and that's okay. Did you get all crazy with the pillows yesterday? :) I can hardly speak/write/read Chinese, so I understand what you mean… Learning takes time. It IS on my list of todo items though. Fear of pain, rejection, and losing. Yup, those are all on my list too.

I often write entries that I feel should be password protected, but in the end, I just leave it out there. The only way to face issues is to make oneself accountable for them… so they’re out there in the open, and that’s okay.

Did you get all crazy with the pillows yesterday? :)

]]> By: howyadoin http://neekole.com/archives/2006/02/09/open-wounds/comment-page-1/#comment-3247 howyadoin Tue, 14 Feb 2006 02:03:07 +0000 http://neekole.com/archives/2006/02/09/open-wounds/#comment-3247 "I’ve thought of taking classes and just trying out a bike at a local shop, but, uh, well, that fear of losing comes up again. It’s a vicious cycle." Pun intended? “I’ve thought of taking classes and just trying out a bike at a local shop, but, uh, well, that fear of losing comes up again. It’s a vicious cycle.”

Pun intended?

]]> By: bjorke http://neekole.com/archives/2006/02/09/open-wounds/comment-page-1/#comment-3234 bjorke Mon, 13 Feb 2006 21:07:42 +0000 http://neekole.com/archives/2006/02/09/open-wounds/#comment-3234 Fear of rejection is bred into us. Remember that 95+% of the history of h.sapiens was prehistory, in social groups of 20 or less. So rejection sexually meant "no offspring" (bad) and general social rejection meant "you are a naked primate alone without a group to protect you so now you will likely die" (REALLY bad) It's been maladaptive for the lass 12,000 years or so, but like the urge to buy ovesized aggressive automobiles, it seems we're stuck with it. Being aware can help you ignore the urge, however :) Fear of rejection is bred into us. Remember that 95+% of the history of h.sapiens was prehistory, in social groups of 20 or less. So rejection sexually meant “no offspring” (bad) and general social rejection meant “you are a naked primate alone without a group to protect you so now you will likely die” (REALLY bad)

It’s been maladaptive for the lass 12,000 years or so, but like the urge to buy ovesized aggressive automobiles, it seems we’re stuck with it. Being aware can help you ignore the urge, however :)

]]> By: Jasmeet http://neekole.com/archives/2006/02/09/open-wounds/comment-page-1/#comment-3130 Jasmeet Fri, 10 Feb 2006 21:41:52 +0000 http://neekole.com/archives/2006/02/09/open-wounds/#comment-3130 I think you've taken a big step here, in opening up to the world, the way you have. Good on you girl. And you're young. So you don't know how to ride a bike now... BFD. You might some day, heck it might be your kids that'll teach you how =) And I think you do great socially. You took a pretty big step in meeting me at the Apple Store, so why worry? Just keep doing what you do =) I think you’ve taken a big step here, in opening up to the world, the way you have. Good on you girl.

And you’re young. So you don’t know how to ride a bike now… BFD. You might some day, heck it might be your kids that’ll teach you how =)

And I think you do great socially. You took a pretty big step in meeting me at the Apple Store, so why worry? Just keep doing what you do =)

]]> By: Jack http://neekole.com/archives/2006/02/09/open-wounds/comment-page-1/#comment-3111 Jack Fri, 10 Feb 2006 13:12:51 +0000 http://neekole.com/archives/2006/02/09/open-wounds/#comment-3111 except for the bicycle and language thing — That can describe everybody to an extent! chill out, enjoy life! you've lived what... 25 years with these "fears" — don't waste your next 25 doing the same! i share the reverse view of the speaking chinese thing. i'm glad i don't and won't. except for the bicycle and language thing — That can describe everybody to an extent! chill out, enjoy life! you’ve lived what… 25 years with these “fears” — don’t waste your next 25 doing the same!

i share the reverse view of the speaking chinese thing. i’m glad i don’t and won’t.

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